Please, Help Me, Help You Grieve.
The fact is, life ends!!
If you're lucky, you'll bow down and exit the stage before your loved ones, in this case they'll be left to figure out how to grieve and move on after such a catastrophic loss. But if life wants to torture you, some of those you dearly love are going to be called way before you. When that happens, I'd like to be there for you.
I just wonder, how do you grieve? When you're sobbing uncontrollably, thinking why life has to be cruel, negotiating; heck, telling God they shouldn't have taken that one person so early; what would you like me to do to make it a little bit less painful.
I know in some cases, you'll try a bargain; 'God please take me' or if you are as selfish as most humans are, you'll have a list of names in your head who deserves to bite the dust but not this one person you deeply love.
Grieving is difficult, it's pain unimaginable which can only be made mildly bearable through love and support. But, do you know what sucks? There isn't a manual for grieving and since I am your friend, I want to help you through times like this, but my question stays the same how can I be of use to you?
The same way we have different love languages, I do believe each one of us has their own 'grief language', it would be a mistake enforcing mine on you.
Would you rather talk about anything else but tragedy right in front of you or your way of dealing with such is facing things head on? Would you need to be occupied with non-funeral issues or in that instance all that matters is the sadness and agony of loss?
How do you grieve my friend, what makes the burden a little bit manageable?
